Living the “Good Life”: What Do You Expect?
…A homeless man on the run from a raging king, acting like a lunatic in front of an enemy…
Should A Christian Get A Prenup? A Resource For Men.
A resource for men wanting honest help in understanding a decision to pursue (or not pursue) a prenuptial agreement in […]
Compassionate Divorce
Compassionate Divorce How in the world do these two things sit together? Is it even possible? If you are going […]
I Will Not Be Afraid
Friday, August 21, 2026. How kind the Lord is.How good he is.So merciful, this God of mine! I was facing death, and he saved me. Lord, you hear my voice.You heard my prayer for mercy.My cry lifted up to heaven where you sit.I prayed, even to my last breath. Death was on me like a…
My Fickle Heart
Can a man describe his wrestling with God? A helpless struggle between the created and the Divine? Why do I feel like a child running and hiding from a parent? Why do I feel like I’m turning my back on the One who really cares the most about me? How is it possible that my…
Becoming (Real) Neighbors
I’ve been journeying through the book of Luke, following what Jesus is doing and saying. I found myself in the 10th chapter, sitting in a part where an expert in religious law came up to Jesus and asked what he should do to inherit eternal life. The man’s response was, “Love the Lord your God…
What Will It Cost Me?
“I’ll follow you wherever you go.” I can almost imagine saying this to Jesus if I had known Him in […]
Becoming Men Without Dark Corners
I have recently asked a few single people this question: How do you know when you are “relationally ready”? Especially […]
A Look Back At The Storm and Rescue: 3 Years Later
Let me tell you this…three years ago my life started to collapse. I never would have imagined what was going […]
Becoming Honest Men
Hypocrite. I’ve been a big one, and if I am honest, so often am still one. I found myself curious about this topic today, and what it looks like in my life. I want to take a little time to explain what I have learned. A hypocrite is a stage player. An actor. A man…
The Time I Quit. And What I Learned.
May 2005. Illinois State High School Track and Field Championships, 3,200-meter finals. Last race of my high school career. I was lined up in the fast heat against 10 other competitors. And I knew I had no business being there. Through the final two years of high school athletics, I had struggled with injuries. An…
Understanding Worship: Part 2
I find myself on the topic of worship and wondering what it really is. Why is understanding worship important? Why […]
What’s A Friend?
Hey guys, I’ve been thinking about friendship lately. For me, this is definitely an area I have not mastered. Is there actually ever a time when we do? Friendship is complicated, unique, complex, and a beautiful thing. Understanding friendship, I believe, is a critical part of understanding who we are. I’ve taken some time to…
When It’s Hard to Ask Her for Help
Connecting Men Series As I’ve been exploring the topic of men and connection, one of the best places I can […]
Our Messy, Beautiful Table: What Men Lose, and Gain, In Divorce
Redeeming Divorce Series. An article for MEND Collective– from a Men’s Divorce Dinner, Charleston SC, mendcharleston.com This month, I bought a table— the first big piece of furniture I’ve purchased since my divorce. Last night, I had the opportunity to sit around that table with eight other men who were going through or had gone…
The Hidden Man: A Need to Prove
The Hidden Man Series The comment came out of my mouth without much thought. It was lobbed with a sarcastic chuckle. The response? “Wow, that was a snarky comment.” I had to think about that. Snarky. What does that mean? Looking up the definition of that word, I was honestly disgusted. Disgusted with myself. This…
The Hidden Man: My Deepest Desire
What do I live for? If I am really honest with you, I want your attention. Lurking under much of what I do, I hope to have my back patted. I hope to be noticed. I want recognition. There is a part of me that is always screaming “Look at me!” I want to be…
Connecting Men: How The Church Can Help
I’ve had quite a few conversations with men who have felt dismissed, ignored, or overlooked by “the church”. Men going through hard times who have wanted support and connection but have not found it within the walls or programs offered by a church they tried to connect with– and they have left disconnected. The point…
The Foundations of Men’s Community
I’ve been considering how healthy men’s communities form, grow, and develop. They’re kind of like living, breathing organisms. They can […]
The Care Behind The Care
This morning I had the opportunity to put together some admission folders for our new patients. They receive these when the first clinician steps through their home and begins providing care. As I was putting them together, I found myself reflecting on the core principles of the company I work for: compassion, excellence, and reliability.…
Blindsided?
I have heard more than one guy going through divorce say “I was blindsided”. This made me wonder… Why might there be a disconnect between what a man and his partner perceive about their relationship quality? Especially if one partner is pulling away and the other thinks things are fine? Maybe a better understanding of…
When Men Gather Together: On Success and What Shapes Us
Last night I had a chance to sit around a fire with nine other guys. For the start of July, with a daytime heat index near triple digits, a breeze blowing off a nearby lake was refreshing. As the evening cooled, we had an opportunity to talk about how success had shaped who we are.…
Becoming Men Who Stay (Faithful)
This week I have found myself surprised by an unlikely letter: Jude. A very short book found towards the end of the New Testament of the Bible, this is one I have overlooked for many years. In the past, I tried to read this letter and honestly found it all sounding strange to me– false…
Becoming A Man Who Stays: When I Hurt
One of the things I have been learning is that when I feel hurt or wounded, there’s a lot underneath the surface. I want to dig into this as I wonder “does anyone else feel this way?” Recently, someone I deeply care about was disappointed in me, and that really hurt. I know that when…
Becoming Merciful Men
I was recently reflecting on a scene from the movie “Gladiator”, where Maximus faces the unbeatable Tigris of Gaul. Maximus wins the fight, but instead of killing Tigris, the greatest gladiator of all time, he spares his life and earns the title “Maximus the Merciful”. While I can’t think of any times as dramatic as…
The Kind Of Men We Need
We need men driven to act, move, respond, serve, live, and love because they understand God’s love through Jesus Christ more and more each day. We need men who desperately want to know Jesus more each day. Men who wake up thirsting and craving to be with Him and learn from Him. Men who not…
What Will You Give Your Kids for Father’s Day?
One of the greatest gifts we can experience on the face of this earth is our children. And as dads, for many of us, Father’s Day weekend holds a significant opportunity. Approaching this through the lens of a broken world, broken relationships, divorce, and relational strain can be a challenging task. Yet regardless of our…
Becoming Friends
I feel like I’m a man who’s just beginning to learn how to be a friend, and I wonder if any other men feel the same. It’s not that I have never had friends, but I have gone through long seasons of life where I did not have many, or any, close friends. And that…
Perspective on ‘James’
Becoming Men Series As I read through the book of James, I began to see a conflict of two kingdoms emerging, and the agendas of each. The first kingdom is ruled by pride, favoritism, selfish ambition, jealousy, foolishness, lying, boasting and fighting. The second kingdom reigns and lives in humility, equality, gentleness, purity, peace, wisdom…
Where Do I Go?
Personal Reflections on Psalm 19 Where can I find soul revival in a world that often feels soul-crushing? Where can I find something I can really trust, when people feel untrustable? Where can I find heart joy when circumstances crush my spirit? Where can I find insight for living in a culture inundated with “how-to-do-life”…